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New on Do Better. Be Better.: my ASMR Blog Series.
No, it’s not kinky—it’s science. In Part 1: ASMR Explained, I break down what ASMR really is and why people swear by it. Coming up: binaural beats, solfeggio frequencies, listening hacks, and how calming your brain can make love (and life) a little less chaotic. Grab your headphones—The Cynical Romantic is about to discover if sound really can heal.😉
Welcome to Love, Lies & Scandals
Some people knit to calm their minds. I built a blog.
With ADHD and a dash of OCD, I’ve discovered that writing about love, heartbreak, and the occasional true crime saga actually brings me focus. What may look like a wild mix—romance, mental health, and true crime—isn’t chaos at all. It’s a three-strand braid. Each strand balances the others: the sweetness of love, the honesty of mental health, and the cautionary drama of true crime. Together, they tell the full story of how messy, complicated, and deeply human relationships really are.
If you’re here for a laugh, a gut-check, or a reminder that love can be both glorious and disastrous, you’ll find it woven through these pages. This project keeps me grounded, and maybe it’ll give you a fresh way to see your own stories, too.
Welcome to Love, Lies & Scandals—where passion meets poor judgment (and finds its punchline).
Here’s what you’ll find in these deliciously unhinged pages:
Love and ai– Cautionary tales, ghosting epics, and the kind of romance that ends in blocked numbers and passive-aggressive Spotify playlists. Read This Week’s Latest Blog Post
The Cynical Romantic – Because despite everything, we keep swiping, hoping, and occasionally falling face-first into something real. Read This Week’s Latest Blog Post
🧠 Do Better. Be Better. – Honest takes on mental health, emotional growth, ADHD/OCD relationships, and how not to lose your mind (or partner) in the process. Read This Week’s Latest Blog Post
Oh, and the affiliate link thing:
Yes, I recommend books, products, and services I actually use—or find so absurd they deserve attention. Clicking those links helps me cover important things like therapy co-pays, coffee, and streaming subscriptions where I emotionally rewatch the same love triangle for the 8th time.
Some links are part of affiliate programs such as Amazon Associates and others that require me to say:
“As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.”.
The Tragedy of Kendra Hatcher
Kendra Hatcher wasn’t just another name in a headline—she was a pediatric dentist with a sunshine smile, devoted to helping children and finally finding love worth building a future around. Her life was full of promise until jealousy turned her happiness into a target. On September 2, 2015, that promise was stolen in a Dallas parking garage. This isn’t a story about the woman who plotted the crime. It’s about remembering Kendra—the compassion she gave, the love she found, and the future she deserved.
“This isn’t a story about a killer. It’s about remembering Kendra, and the love she deserved.”
““My love life is like my favorite rom-com: the bloopers are the best part.””
The Cynical Romantic
Chief heartbreaker in denial, caffeinated storyteller, and the guy who brings sarcasm to every awkward first date.
In This Edition
DO BETTER. BE BETTER.
Your health and relationships are more connected than you think. Discover how self-care, mental clarity, and emotional intelligence can transform your love life. Read now and start your journey to better love!It all begins with an idea.
The ADHD Love Paradox – Passion vs. Impulse Control—Unlock the secrets to thriving with ADHD in your relationships! Our latest post dives into the ADHD Love Paradox—balancing exhilarating passion with impulse control. Filled with relatable humor, expert advice, and practical tips, this guide helps couples navigate ADHD challenges and transform them into relationship strengths."
Real-life Rom-Com Moment:
Remember when you casually mentioned you'd love to see the ocean and ended up waking up at a seaside Airbnb the next morning? Yep, that's ADHD in action—romantic, spontaneous, and just a little reckless.
Welcome to my ASMR experiment. And no—before your mind goes there—it’s not kinky, it’s science. ASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) has been called everything from “brain tingles” to “weird YouTube rabbit hole you can’t explain to your friends.” For me, it’s another way to explore the strange connections between mind, body, and emotions—because let’s face it, love and stress both find creative ways to hijack our nervous systems.
In this new series, I’m diving into the world of ASMR: what it is, why it matters, and how something as simple as a whisper or tapping fingernails can send your brain into relaxation mode. We’ll explore the science (yes, actual neuroscience), the history of how ASMR blew up online, and the surprising ways it can impact mental health, emotional balance, and relationships.
Part 1—ASMR Explained—is already live on the Do Better. Be Better. page. It’s the beginner’s guide to what ASMR really is, how it works, and why so many people swear by it.
What’s Coming in the ASMR Series
Binaural Beats — how two tones can trick your brain into focus, sleep, or deep calm.
Solfeggio Frequencies — the ancient sound scales with modern wellness hype.
Listening Hacks — headphones, playlists, and the best times of day to tune in.
The Science & Skepticism — separating proven benefits from internet myths.
ASMR & Relationships — how calming your brain can improve connection and intimacy.
The goal isn’t just to geek out over sound science. It’s to give you practical tools you can actually use—to unwind, reset, and maybe even strengthen your emotional connections. Whether you’re falling in love, falling apart, or just trying to fall asleep to ocean waves, ASMR might be the unexpected ally your brain didn’t know it needed.
Love and the Laws of gravity
Love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a force of nature. Like gravity, it’s invisible, powerful, and guaranteed to make you fall—hard. Newton discovered apples; we discovered text-spirals, ghosting, and drama black holes. Whether it’s mass attracting mass (hello, confidence and dog pics), or distance weakening the pull (sorry, long-distance FaceTime), romance plays by physics rules with a side of chaos. Orbits? That’s just situationships spinning in circles. Tides? Mood swings triggered by late-night “wyd?” texts. And black holes? Every “we need to talk” ever. Throw in asteroid impacts from old flames and orbital decay from fading passion, and suddenly dating feels like NASA’s worst experiment. But here’s the kicker: without love—or gravity—life would float into chaos. So strap in, grab your emotional helmet, and remember: the universe may pull you down, but at least love teaches us physics… one meteor strike at a time.
